What Love is not in 5 ways?
There are certain things you can call love. And there are certain things that might look like love but are not love when considered critically. Here are our list of things that should be love but are not love.
1. Love is not saying “I Love You”
Love is beyond saying I love you. Those 3 words are one of the most used words ever. If it meant love, then the world will be full of so much love and less hate.
We cannot explain this better if we miss what was said in he movie “What love” Starred by Cuba Gooding Junior. In the movie, a lady said to Tom:
Do you know what love really is, Tom? Love is a one way street, going from you out. And you give it because it makes you feel good to give it. Because when you give it, it makes you strong. And that crazy, vulnerable, out of control scary feeling, feeling that most people think is love? It’s not really love at all; it’s just the need to be loved. And believe me, its a really different thing. Real love isn’t “I love you” hoping the other person is going to say it too. It’s just, I love you. Its like giving someone a gift at Christmas, and if you get anything back, that’s a bonus, that’s extra. But you shouldn’t NEED to receive it, cause the true strength is in the giving of it.
2. Love is not Sex
The Movies portrays a wrong definition of love. They always use sex as a sign that people are in love. Then the first thing people in courtship are saying is…now that we are dating or courting, we should have sex. The truth is that sex is not a sign of love. Anyone can have sex even without any feelings. They just want to satisfy their lust. So don’t mistaken sex for love. Sex is not love..
3. Love is not Chemistry
There are some people you just have good chemistry with. All that you do or discuss is always on point with such person. You guys can talk for hours non stop and your vibes are in sync. Okay. That looks like love, but it’s not love. You will have a lot of chemistry with a lot of people in your life time. And this cannot be mistaken for love. Chemistry helps people Bond as a community. Chemistry is important in love, but it’s not love by itself.
4. Love is not Obsession
I cannot sleep, I have to see her, where is she? Where did you go to? You keep looking at his picture everyday and you cannot sleep, you talk about her, see her in your dreams and she just all over you and yet she doesn’t know you exist. Obsession is not love. It can lead to hurting each other. You need clarity of mind and purpose, obsession will blindfold you. Can someone be obsessed in love? It’s possible, this will soon fade away and both persons will have to smell the coffee eventually.
5. Love is not Jealousy
Jealousy is bad. Love is good, Jealousy is negative, Love is positive. Jealousy can harm, love cannot harm another. Jealousy generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, and concern over a relative lack of possessions or safety. Jealousy can consist of one or more emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness or disgust. Love is patient and kind, love is not jealousy and both cannot be mingled.
What do you think? You should add to this list. How do you know you are in love? Leave your comment.
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